Wasabi Peeps,
I really think it is a quarter life crisis. It just tough to decide the right direction we want to take our lives in. Not just career wise but also “location” wise” creating own family” wise “keeping in touch with friends” wise it’s a very crazy dynamic period filled with opportunities yet doubts.
Actually it’s a bit of a luxury problem since in the old days and in allot of areas in the world people don’t have choices. They just finish school and work to support their family or stay at home and take care of the home and pop out some babies and have to forget about their dreams and desires. But we can choose and we should. Like I say allot it is very easy to take the path that society (parents, friends) expects from you, to take the high paying attractive pressure filled job even though it may not be your dream just because that’s how they (parents , friends, your own pride) perceive your success. In the end though it all comes down to what makes you happy because there is only one person who is living your life and has to deal with your issues.
My issue for the last few years has just been finding a direction. I don’t know what to do career wise. I do not want to be sitting in a cubicle working on financials or doing marketing research even though people around me think I am good at it. I want to be creative in an creative environment with energetic creative people around me. But I can’t just figure out what I should do.
That’s also another point that Sooyoung mentioned earlier. Happiness is all about your own perspective but before I get into that I have to state though that the people you surround yourself with help influence your perspective. If you are hanging around negative complaining people al the time you will become so, maybe not by choice but subconsciously. So it is really important to find the right people to spent time with if you are around negative colleagues.
Happiness is all about perspective though. All about internal view, how in the end it is just a choice of looking at things and feeling happy. Most people equate happiness with external surroundings, money, perfect partner, perfect place to live, people who admire you. But this does not really matter in the end. That’s why there are some garbage man in the world that are some of the happiest people in the world and some celebrities or their kids who try to commit suicide because of horrible they are feeling. Just because it seems like somebody has it all doesn’t mean they are happy. Only you can make yourself happy and now. I used to think that once I get this amount of money and this skill in photography and this amount of friends to hang out with then I will be completely happy, but that’s wrong, there is a big chance that perfect situation will never happen and maybe once it happens I change and would rather be alone, I would rather have the choice myself to make myself happy at any point in life.
So in the end figure out your role, what you would like to do and then take the steps to get there. Once you have a goal to where you want to be its easy to get motivated and work towards that. As for myself I still need to find that role/goal.
Where do you want to go?
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Oh yeah just because I am handing out advice its not as if my life is perfect. I wake up in the morning with no desire to go to work, I procrastinate like a madman when I am there just because I have no motivation at all to do any work. I have no friends at work since my only German intern friend went back to Germany a few months ago. No other people I have met either since I got here. Its hard to have no friends around compared to Korea and Netherlands when I always had somebody to hang out with and talk, have dinner and just chill with. I look forward to the weekends which are nice to spent with my best friend but that is over now (not a break up just a country relocation thing) and now even my weekends are no more fun. So I am just trying to figure out what kind of work I want to do ( that can pay enough to help me repay my student loans) and which country I would like to do that in. And it is not easy. Just feels like crawling uphill and swimming upstream.
My sufferings can be tremendously reduced if I had friends like you're mentioning. Or I think my sufferings were created by myself because I do not have any positive interactions with happy people around me. No matter what I should go through this tunnel, soon I will get over it, and feel relieved and happy in the lay of light.
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